Need

there are times in your life when you need to cry sometimes with a reason and sometimes without…when you feel like as Rose says in titanic you are in a ‘crowded room shouting at the top of my lungs and no one even looks up and the inertia of my life plunging ahead and me powerless to stop it’…you feel like in the spur of the moment the earth splits open and you just become one with it. You want someone to just listen to you tell them whats in your heart without the fear of them judging you or reacting strangely, in such times of crisis you need support from a friend or a partner who can listen to you and console you, We all need someone someone to support us and hold us when we are in a situation where we might collapse any moment, human beings are designed for anything but loneliness and those too busy chasing success when they achieve it they have everything but relationships…what one needs to realize that its the journey thats important not the destination…but that is another story and debate altogether, what i was saying was there are certain times in life where you feel you are all alone and when this loneliness creeps up to you, you tend to make decisions which might alter the course of your life in a direction which you might regret in the later stages of life, you tend to lose your ability to differentiate right from wrong and thus to make matters worse you end up in a situation you did not want to in the first place…the need however is for those people to stick with their friends are partners who are going through a rough patch in their lives and support them and be with them in every way possible lending your shoulder for them to cry on when needed and providing them with shade in the harsh sun of problems…sounds cheesy i know…but what can i say that it all helps that person to a certain extent to retain his sanity and his belief that you are there for him no matter what… might be an acid test for you as to what the hell am i a servant or what that he comes to me letting out his frustrations but then again you didnt choose to be someone’s friend or partner just like that…as rani says Dosti ki hai nibhani to pareygi(you have become friends now, so will have to bear the friendship) also it also becomes a responsibility on your shoulder not to end the relationship and call it to quits, you might be able to move on but the other person banking on you for emotional support might just break down, collapse like life does after meeting death, and the consequences well, they are better left unsaid…coz it might be worse than you can imagine

We all need Someone…

Just thought of sharing this piece of writing…

We All Need Someone by Rich Clingman, May, 1980

 

It seems in the world today
We’re afraid to be involved

In the lives of others,
Even those whom we love.

 

When their hard times come
The only thing we’ll say

Is, “Pray to the Lord,”
And then we’ll walk away.

 

 

Or maybe we have the answers
That work every time for sure,

The quick remedy
Or the ready-made cure,

 

But what they need is someone
Just to be near,

To take some time,
To lend a listening ear.

 

 

We all need someone we can talk to.
 We all need someone who’ll be there.

We all need someone we can lean on.
We all need someone who’ll care.

 

Have you ever needed
Just to be heard?

Not seeking advice,
Nor a positive word?

 

Have you said, “If someone will listen
To what I have to say,

Then maybe a change
Will come my way”?

 

 

There are others here today
Who think the same as you.

If you’ll listen to them,
Well, maybe they will listen, too.

 

If you’ll give your love to others
Then they will love you back.

Let’s help each other
In the things that we lack.

 

 

We all need someone we can talk to.
 We all need someone who’ll be there.

We all need someone we can lean on.
We all need someone who’ll care.

 

Won’t you take a minute
To think about what you’ve heard?

Just look a little longer
It’s written in God’s Word.

 

Get involved in lives of others,
Take a minute to understand

The troubles they’re in.
Won’t you lend a helping hand?

 

 

You will be amazed
At the difference it can make,

The ear you lend
And the time that you take

 

Can help someone so greatly!
The love you’ll show today

Can help them in their walk,
Get them headed back the right way.

 

 

We all need someone we can talk to.
 We all need someone who’ll be there.

We all need someone we can lean on.
We all need someone who’ll care.

 

We all need someone who’ll care.

 

Won’t you be that someone who’ll care?

The Course Of Morality

Morality, what is it, some describe it as the way of life while some credit it as the understanding of the right and wrong but who determines what is right and wrong…sure there are standards but who determines them, and who determines those who determine those standards…the course of morality is very subtle. what might be right for one person may not hold the same value for the next depending in what situation and what place you stand at. An extra-marital affair might become right if you are the one who is involved in cheating but not when you are the one who is cheated… i have seen many people do that, what might be wrong for others according to them becomes right the instant they are faced with a similar situation. why is it tha people cannot stay on their word for i have known people go back on their word, which they have sweared and are convinced about totally and believe in, and then regard it as simply put their mistake coz people tend to change…yes i agree but why dont they stay firm on their word? are they too scared to be confronted with the same situation? or they dont believe the decision so strongle as they make it out to be in front of people?  but again when seeing it other light one tends to see that some of it is intentional while other isnt…its all from which perspective one is seeing it…and despite the fear being labelled bad or undecided or anything like that they go with it probably because they do not have a way out which others and people around them fail to see and forget that Rani said in her movie humtum that ‘people arent bad, bad are the times befall’…i agree no one is bad from the time of birth it is the situations that person is put in to which he reacts in a certain way which is then labelled ‘bad’ by the world…but that person is not accountable to anyone…anyone at all except for himself and those people who are related to his decision or response and that again also varies from situation to situation where people related to certain decision do not have to be told or given justification of any of the decisions e.g. a person is dying therefore in an effort so that many people dont remeber him after he is dead and be sad he is rude to everyone or if a friend fears that his friend at one point might have to make a choice where he would be in a situation ehre he would have to choose between him and other friend then before hand that friend becomes rude to that person because if the relationship ends he wouldnt have any problems or be at crossroads wondering where to go as the phrase goes ’sometimes you have to be bad to people for their own good’ but then again that good is how you see it and not the other person so it does remain a question is it really good and justifiable to that person who does not even know that for what ‘good’ is he being treated ‘badly’

Phew! that felt good…all thanks to Ghazal for introducing me to the world of blogging